• Mon. Jun 27th, 2022

Care and Giving Balance

by Dr. Tyra Oldham

The need to respect caregivers can change the world. The commitment and strength to care go hand-and-hand to deliver care. What can be overlooked is the beauty and challenges in care and giving. There are two paths to care. There is the act of caring and the ability to give. The two words work together, creating care and giving. The question to consider is when one is delivered and the other cannot. 

As a caregiver, I have experienced the point where there is care but not enough energy to give. The two words work harmoniously together, and one without the other prevents the act of caregiving. The opportunity is for organizations and family members to remember the unity of care and giving. The agreement of these two words produces the fuel, stamina, and ability to give care. I contend you cannot have one without the other, or if you do, there is very little care given.

Rosalynn Carter states, “There are only four kinds of people in the world. Those who have been caregivers. Those who are currently caregivers. Those who will be caregivers, and those who will need a caregiver.”

Until you experience one of the four, it is hard to understand the work, time, and thought into care and giving.

This article aims to reach out to caregivers and share that your time and energy in care impact giving. A caregiver cannot continually give without consequences. The ability to care can be present for your family member. A professional caregiver can respect their client, but it is challenging to give without replenishment, no matter your relational status. There is sadness, conflict, and even despair when you care and are unable to give. The ability to gain giving is for the caregiver to restore their energy and have a meaningful time for self-renewal, reflection, and respite. 

There is a balance between caring and giving throughout the day and process. So, to give is caring, and showing care is also giving. It is important to remember to take time to respect and be thankful to your caregivers. Also, caregivers remember to deliver care and give to themselves. No matter who you care for, both sides must care for effective care to occur.

I will leave you with this powerful quote, “You can have two hands. One to help yourself, and one to help others,” by Audrey Hepburn.

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