• Wed. Dec 1st, 2021

Ask Ashlee: Should I pursue a recently divorced man?

Dear Ashlee,

I have a crush on someone I have been working with for the last 2 years. I’ve never shared this with him, because he was married and I respected that. He got a divorce about 2 months ago, and I am curious to know what’s the right time to try to approach a recently divorced man? I am not looking to be a rebound for him, but I am interested in pursuing him.    

Do you think I would be wrong? If not, how do you think I should approach him? I know it’s typical for a man to approach a woman, but he is so attractive, and with the conversations we have had about life, family and values I know that there is a chance we could become something special. Any ideas?

Ready To Take Chance

Dear Ready To Take Chance,

So here’s the thing, I am not going to be the one to tell you to go for it, or the one to tell you not to shoot your shot. However, there are several things I want you to consider from both sides of the fence. This is a recently divorced man whom you really have no idea his mental state of mind within the space he currently is in his life. You mentioned not wanting to be a rebound chick, and I agree with that. Therefore you cannot move or operate as one. Any person that comes out of any relationship, needs time to heal from the traumas and disappointments brought on by that relationship. He will need time to properly love you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Anything worth having, takes time, right?

Instead of focusing on him and chasing after him, focus on yourself. Focus on becoming the best version of you that you can be and whatever is meant for you, will flow to you easily. If he is meant for you, trust me, he will gradually flow to you at the perfect timing for you both. In the meantime, be his friend and allow that to be a beautiful relationship for you two to blossom into.

I hope this helps!

Love & Light, Ashlee