Dear Ask Ashlee,
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years, and we have a great relationship. We do almost everything together, while still being capable of having our own lives. We have been through a lot, but we have managed to get through it together. I love him very much and I plan on spending the rest of my life with him. My issue is he already asked me to marry him a few years ago, and I said no. At the time I did not trust him, mainly because I didn’t trust myself, but we had some issues that I didn’t think marriage could solve. Now that we have done the work, I feel like we are ready for that commitment, but it seems like it is taking forever for him to ask me again. I am not trying to rush him, but I just don’t want to lose him or feel like I have missed my chance. Should I ask him? It’s really not something I want to do, but I am willing to put my pride aside for this man and do whatever I need to do to keep him.
I Should’ve Said Yes
Dear I Should’ve Said Yes,
So, here’s the thing, this is your man of 4 years, you do not need to compromise your values/morals to get him to understand you’re ready for marriage. This is your moment to be open and honest and add in a bit of vulnerability in there while you’re at it. You’ll want to let him know exactly how you feel and assure him that when he asks again, you will say yes. Take a moment to find out what his fears are, if there are any, and explore all your options together. If you told this man no and he stayed with you, trust me, he still wants to marry you. He could be just waiting until he thinks you are ready! I hope this helps!
Love & Light,