Dear Ask Ashlee,
My husband and I have been married for 4 years, and we dated for about 2 years before we got married. He was coming out of a previous marriage and then seemed to have separated amicably. They have a child together and everyone seems to get along just fine as far as the co-parenting situation goes. I trust my husband and his ex-wife isn’t a horrible person, so it makes things easier, but (of course there is a but) my husband still refers to his ex-wife as “bunny” the name he used while they were together and that bothers me on so many different levels! Again, I trust him, but her name is not bunny and I’m just completely irritated by the fact that he continues to use this once very intimate word between them while he is now married to me, and just in case you’re wondering, I don’t have a nickname outside of “honey”. Before I bring it to his attention, I’m curious to know if it’s even worth mentioning.
Dear His Honey,
So, here’s the thing, that’s your husband! Of course, it’s worth mentioning because it’s simply something that bothers you. If he isn’t aware of the issue, he will continue to refer to her in that manner and will continue to offend you without even knowing it. He is your husband, I would like to think he isn’t going out of his way to hurt you and do something that could cause issues within your marriage, so speak up. The worst thing you can do is keep something like this to yourself and allow it to fester within your spirit. Marriages are about so much more than just love, it’s a partnership, and you have to discuss everything with your partner to ensure things continue to run smoothly. Now, if he doesn’t see things your way, we will have to dig a little deeper, but let’s hope that’s not the case, but if it is, I’ll be here!
I hope this helps!
Love & Light,