• Sat. Mar 25th, 2023

Ask Ashlee: Does a relationship need to include sex to be fulfilling?

Dear Ask Ashlee,

I started dating someone a few months ago and we have a pretty cool connection with one another. I enjoy his company and he seems to enjoy mine. I’m interested in taking our relationship to the next level, but to my surprise, he is actually holding out until marriage. It would be my luck that I finally come across a guy that may actually be worth my time, and he can’t even touch me. I want to think that I am the kind of woman that can support this and still date this man, but I can’t say with all certainty that I am. Would I be wrong if I tried to see if I could handle it without being 100% for sure, or should I just save us both some time and call it quits now?

Ms. Unsure

Dear Ms. Unsure,

So, here’s the thing, everything about love is risky. I think it’s surprisingly refreshing to meet a man who wants to treat his body like the temple that it is. Even more so, if he understands the importance of this with his own body, it’s safe to assume he will treat yours with the same value and respect. I think you should dive more into this conversation with him. You can’t be afraid to have uncomfortable conversations with this man if you intend on having a meaningful relationship with him. So, to answer your question, no I don’t think you’re wrong with seeing where things may go with him, just follow the path with good intentions and a pure heart while continuing to have real vulnerable conversations with him. Now, it goes without saying, this does not mean you should scroll through your phone and find your favorite playmate who doesn’t want anything for when times are hard! Sometimes, when we leave sex off the table it allows for us to not only become deeper connected with whom we choose to share this journey with, but it definitely creates a deeper connection within our own selves and that alone is worth more than anything else in this world. Give it some thought. I hope this helps!

Love & Light,