Dear Ask Ashlee,
My boyfriend doesn’t want to post me on his social media, and I think it is because he may be cheating on me. I don’t have any actual proof that he is, but I can feel it. We were social media friends for a while before we started dating, so I know that posting women on his page is something that he is willing to do. I have tried to talk to him about this on multiple different occasions and he just says he is a private person and the more I ask him about it, the less inclined he is to want to do it. I haven’t posted him to my account yet because I feel like he should do it first. We’ve been together for about a year, and this has been a nonstop argument. Am I being petty, paranoid, or right on point?
So, here’s the thing, a year really isn’t that long when you are considering forever. You need to find out if your man doesn’t want you both posting about each other at all, or if he just is not ready yet, because that is a huge difference. A lot of people get so wrapped up in what is seen and what is shown on social media that they lose sight of what is happening in real life. You may not have any issues posting your man, but maybe he wants to spare you from jealousy coming your way. Maybe he wants to spare himself from crazy old exes of yours. Maybe he posted those women before you too soon and then their relationships with him didn’t work out. Or maybe, just maybe, he is being very honest with you and has learned to be a private person to relieve himself from the opinions of others. It is very important for the two of you to get on the same page when it comes to this particular subject. Now, if there are other red flags you are noticing that have you wondering if he is cheating, address those concerns, but not wanting to post you on social media may be a bit of a stretch. Talk to him again, ask the real questions you are wondering about and get some real understanding of what you may be feeling. I hope this helps!
Love and Light,