• Thu. Dec 8th, 2022

Ask Ashlee: The ‘problem’ with being a hopeless romantic

Dear Ask Ashlee,

I am a hopeless romantic. According to those that know me well it’s terrible, I jump from relationship to relationship, feeling the euphoria of “being in love” each time, but never having that feeling last longer than a few months before I become unusually detached from the person I genuinely believed to be the “one”. I have a close friend of mine that pointed this out to me, and she suggested I start some form of therapy to help me deal with my “problem”, but I have been to therapy before, and I didn’t like it at all. So, I don’t think that’s the best way for me to address why I am the way I am. Is this something you’ve ever discussed before on your show or in your column?

Signed,

Hopeless Romantic

Dear Hopeless Romantic,

So, here’s the thing, it sounds like you are searching for something you feel like you are missing. The question is, what is it? If you are jumping from relationship to relationship, you are exhausting and exchange way too much of your energy, time, and resources to something that may need to be addressed internally. Ask yourself some really tough questions and learn to be real and vulnerable with yourself first, so you can get a good idea of where you are in your life, who you are today and if that is the person you want to continue being tomorrow. Your friend was right, therapy is a great tool for you to utilize. Even if the first therapist you had didn’t have a good rapport with you, this doesn’t mean that there isn’t one out there who can resonate with you on a different level and get through to you. I recommend finding another one and being open to the idea of getting a better insight on yourself and discovering why you move the way you move. I hope this helps!

Love & Light,

Ash