Dear Ask Ashlee,
I am going through a really rough time after losing my job a few weeks ago. I was fired for something I had no control over, and I have been doing my best looking for work and trying to figure out a way to bring money in the house since losing my job. I am barely making anything, but the biggest stressor I have is that I haven’t shared this with my girlfriend yet and of course the bills keep coming. This is the fourth job I have lost in the last two years, and she has been really carrying us through it all. She deserves so much more, and I am afraid of losing her. Do you have any advice on how I can share this with her but make her still believe in me?
Mr. Anonymous
Dear Mr. Anonymous,
So, here’s the thing. I want to address a few things you’ve mentioned. First, if this is your fourth job in the last two years, you should consider figuring out what it is you really want to do, and what it is you are passionate about. Allow yourself to dream big, and then bet on yourself. You may be surprised just how quickly your life can turn around when you actually start believing in you. I know you are worried about whether or not your girlfriend will believe in you after another lost job, but she doesn’t sound like she is the one that doesn’t believe in you, it sounds like you are. As far as she is concerned, I strongly believe in just being honest and telling her the truth. If she has been holding the household down for this long, she needs to be respected as such. Don’t hide from what is happening and place her in a position where she could fail you both because she doesn’t have a clear picture of what is going on. I know as a man, this is very difficult, but it is not impossible, and this is something you really need to be upfront about. I hope this helps.
Love & Light,
Ash
