Ask Ashlee:
• Ms. New to the City is struggling to make meaningful connections in her new city after moving there for her boyfriend.
• She has communicated her feelings to him, but he doesn't understand.
• Ashlee suggests trusting her gut and taking her time to understand herself better before attracting meaningful connections.
• She suggests visiting places that align with her interests to find her tribe.
Dear Ask Ashlee,
I just moved to a new city a little over a year ago and I have been struggling to make meaningful connections. I moved to be with my boyfriend, as cliche as that sounds, and yes, we are still together, but I want a life outside of him. I don’t mind my solitude, but it’s not something I am looking to do every day and every weekend. I have communicated this with my boyfriend, but he doesn’t get it because he has a whole crew of friends. I have met them all and some of their girlfriends, but these women are really not my vibe. I want to be happy here, and I am trying, but it just feels really hard for me to find my own support system here. Any suggestions?
Ms. New to the City
Ms. New to the City,
So, here’s the thing, trust your gut and take your time. A year is a bit of time, but in the grand scheme of things, not so much! I’m curious to know how much self-work and awareness has been completed in that timeframe. If you’ve been taking time getting to know yourself, then you are off to a great start at building the meaningful connections you are yearning for. Why? It’s simple really, the more you understand yourself, the more you can attract these things to you. If you are into a wellness lifestyle, visit places that align with that, and you will come across people with similar interests. This will require a bit of openness on your part but trust the process. Allow things to happen organically and I guarantee you will find your tribe! I hope this helps!
Love & Light,
Ashlee